1. Never allow yourself to love someone more than you love yourself.
Selfish may be the first word that comes to your mind, but wait...this statement holds alot of importance.You see, when you love someone more than yourself you lose yourself in that person and overlook your own worth. You find yourself relying on their presence to keep you alive. You become addicted to them, and we all know what addictions do; ultimately kill your mind, spirit, and body. For that matter, never allow yourself to love anything more than you love yourself...except God. So far, I've learned he's the only thing worth loving more than yourself that won't destroy you in the end.
2. Seek help as soon as you realize you need it.
I'm pretty stubborn. I like to believe my advice is the best advice for myself. It's not, which is why it's important that we both learn to be more open to aid. Whether it's professional, psychological, medical, from a friend, family, etc...seek it! Some things cannot be resolved on our own, like acne or depression, or that weird bump growing on your back...whatever. Sucks, I know.
3. Know how to save and invest.
I realize I am a ridiculous waster. I use everything heavy handedly (not a word, I know). I also have a hard time putting things away for later use. One HUGE regret I have is that I did not look into investing my money and time in better things than superficial fillers like clothing, food, etc. So, take the time to invest. Set aside your time, money, and energy for better things...for future things. Open more than one savings account...and don't touch it!
4. Forgive yourself as you would want others to forgive you.
Need I say more? Oh, and of course...forgive others as you would want to be forgiven.
5. Build bridges rathen than burning them.
When I delete a person out of my life, it goes farther than de-friending them on facebook or erasing their contact in my phone. I, literally, erase their relevance from my life. Which, is not always good. People come and go, yes. But the thing is that they come and go, come and go, come and go...you never know whether a "goodbye" is really a goodbye. So, don't be so quick to write (well, backspace) people out of your lives because you never know when they may pop up back in your life and you just might need them. I probably would have alot of great connects and a pretty grand network had I not done so. :-/
6. Be who you want to be, not what you think others want you to be or what others want you to be.
Yes, you may hear this alot of the time, but maybe not exactly how I'm putting it. Basically, don't be a mind reader when it comes to acting how you think a person wants you to act to accept you. Just, dont! Don't limit yourself to it, besides you'll learn that how you think someone expects you to be is not at all what they were really hoping for, the real you! I also spend alot of time doing this. Yes, I know...can't stop shaking my head either.
7. Give the "unlikely ones" a chance.
I may have been alot happier with one of the many guys I overlooked. (HUGE SIGH)
8. Be fearless.
Don't allow fear to keep you from asking what you want to ask, saying what you want to say, doing what you want to do, revealing what you want to reveal. Don't limit yourself to fear. Stick up for those you love, speak up for yourself, don't concentrate on worst-case scenarios. Do what you want and be unapologetic for it (unless its hurtful).
and lastly, stealing from the article (and flipping it a bit), since this is applies to me very much:
9. "If [someone] wants you, genuinely wants you, there is nothing you can do to keep [them] away. Contrarily, if a [person] is not that interested in you, there is nothing you can do to make [them] stay."
-- Poetic Justice
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